Gloria Steinem’s Interview
Steinem responds to the idea that women are too independent these days—making it tough for them to find men who are smarter, more accomplished. She says a woman who thinks that way, “Still believes that men need to have more money, have more education, be more successful, and weigh more than you. By the time you’re finished with all of these things, it’s a wonder that you even like each other. I mean, you may very well fall in love with somebody who makes less money, who’s younger than you, who weighs less than you.”
She says Swedish prime minister, Olf Palme wrote that gender roles are the deepest cause of violence on earth—they normalize subject and object, dominant and passive, and group judgments in general.
“Men are deprived of their human qualities that are wrongly called feminine, and women are deprived of their human qualities that are wrongly called masculine.” And of the woman who is stuck on finding a man who is more accomplished than her, “She can only go out with or marry a man who is superior to her. The problem there is that she is wanting to be defeated, as opposed to finding a partner. She thinks she’s supposed to be defeated, like the Maid Marian Complex with Robin Hood.”
Steinem says, “I think our moments of happiness really come from a feeling of unity.” And she explains what this means by discussing her occasional fear of a plane crash, where she says, “Well, if I’m holding the hand of the person sitting next to me, then I’m holding everyone’s hand.”
She developed a habit of focusing on the future because of her childhood. She didn’t like it—so she was always thinking about ways to get out of it. It became a habit. She wasted a lot of time she said. She developed a need to feel useful because she was neglected as a child. So she always said, “I can do that for you.” Rather than working on new things, things that had not been done, that she couldn’t do at the time.
Interview Magazine, August 2011, pp. 100-111.
The Elected at Schubas last night. Now convinced that all musicians should play steel drums or other shiny instruments, as it reflects the light in a really great way.
(via dontoverthink)
Try some good food
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Sorullitos de Maiz Corn Fritters
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Ropa Vieja with Arepas
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Corn Ice cream
![Tina Fey. Love her.
thedailywhat:
Controversial Remarks of the Day: Yesterday it came to light that PBS had edited out remarks made by Tina Fey about Sarah Palin “and women like her” during her Mark Twain Prize acceptance speech.
This is what she said:
And, you know, politics aside, the success of Sarah Palin and women like her is good for all women - except, of course —those who will end up, you know, like, paying for their own rape ‘kit ‘n’ stuff, But for everybody else, it’s a win-win. Unless you’re a gay woman who wants to marry your partner of 20 years - whatever. But for most women, the success of conservative women is good for all of us. Unless you believe in evolution. You know - actually, I take it back. The whole thing’s a disaster.
PBS claims the remarks were cut because the show ran long. “We took a lot out,” says executive producer Peter Kaminsky. “[I]t was not a political decision. We had zero problems with anything she said.”
You can watch the unedited speech at PBS.org.
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Tina Fey. Love her.
Controversial Remarks of the Day: Yesterday it came to light that PBS had edited out remarks made by Tina Fey about Sarah Palin “and women like her” during her Mark Twain Prize acceptance speech.
This is what she said:
And, you know, politics aside, the success of Sarah Palin and women like her is good for all women - except, of course —those who will end up, you know, like, paying for their own rape ‘kit ‘n’ stuff, But for everybody else, it’s a win-win. Unless you’re a gay woman who wants to marry your partner of 20 years - whatever. But for most women, the success of conservative women is good for all of us. Unless you believe in evolution. You know - actually, I take it back. The whole thing’s a disaster.
PBS claims the remarks were cut because the show ran long. “We took a lot out,” says executive producer Peter Kaminsky. “[I]t was not a political decision. We had zero problems with anything she said.”
You can watch the unedited speech at PBS.org.
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I’m generally opposed to binary oppositions because they simplify differences—create labels that restrict possibilities. But Liz Wiseman’s description of leaders who Multiply and Diminish resonates. I’d like to be a multiplier.
Cool Friends Have Told Me to Watch
- Always Sunny in Philadelphia
- Running Wilde
- Catfish, documentary, Ron suggestion
- The Last Airbender, Ron & Lennon suggestion
